So, the saga continues, and I insist on recording everything of any note whatsoever here, so that one day I can look back and laugh at my fumbling early steps (or else realise that it's never going to get any better!)
Yesterday's adventure was going to the Big Town, where I again managed to wander around and not managing to make approaches (everyone looked really hurried yesterday, I don't know why that was, but it felt wrong to interrupt them). Finally, at the bus stop an opportunity presented itself when one woman was waiting for the same bus as me, and it didn't turn up. She had a discussion first with someone else that I was well-positioned to overhear (and in her eye line so she knew I wasn't being nosy by overhearing). So, when the other person caught their bus, I went over and opened, "Waiting for the ## bus? Me too!" And conversation ensued. She was much older than she looked (she mentioned casually that she had a granddaughter, I was reading her as early- to mid-thirties!) so again, that was enough for me to read it as not a viable pick-up opportunity per se, but still good enough for me to get used to the idea of striking up conversations with random people. Once we had a little rapport going, I admired her tattoos, we talked a bit about how they can be addictive, and my thinking I might or might not get one. We shared a moan about "foul-mouthed kids today" (like they've ever been anything but, really, and there's plenty of adults who are worse - I also kept to my principle that it's not the language but the volume that bothers me) and it was generally a nice chat. In the bus (crowded with noisy kids)
Like I say, it's getting used to the idea that you can have a conversation like this. I still need that opening remark, the thing to say immediately after "hello!" But this is getting better. It's only a matter of time until I actually get it right that someone is my age or thereabouts, and then I can see if I can make this work to get an actual date or something! (And urgh, how many times did I use "actual(ly)" in that sentence?)
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