Good-girl/Bad-girl sexy

I used to love doing the quizzes in the girlie mags my sister regularly bought (there was a range of them, the ones I recall are "Miz", "19", "Just Seventeen" and of course the UK version of Cosmo) and seeing what sort of girl I would be!

Via Figleaf and Holly @ Pervocracy I was put onto a US Cosmo quiz thing called "Are You Good-girl Hot or Bad-girl Hot?" (follow the links on Holly or Figleaf to try it yourself). I couldn't resist trying it out. Since it's online, I was able to take screenshots to show you what my answers and result were (and hey, dig how their colour scheme matches mine almost exactly - how cool is that!?):



God knows I don't have much in the way of assets that can be worked (at least, not in public, until nudism is an accepted part of social behaviour...) and however smart I may be, I draw the line at "sophisticated. I actually usually go for humour, but failing that, I'm much more likely to be shy, oh so painfully shy... if I can just work on that "sultry" bit now...

Oh yeah, and "effortlessly"? For mere mortal men, the dominant paradigm would have any form of dating as requiring all sorts of effort!


Gosh **blush** the thought of initiating physical contact at all - but equally, no lust-inducing figure (gay man or straight woman) is going to notice me all by myself, and waiting for a chance encounter of a mutual acquaintance just ain't gonna cut it. And the MAJOR dose of self-consciousness that would come from trying a ruse like "need another drink?" would sink me before I got there - picture tripping over my own feet and falling flat on my face in a most classy (NOT!) style - so this was a bit of a doozy for me. In the end, my thing is just to approach and introduce myself. But like I said, attempting physical contact (quite apart from the potential for a man initiating physical contact to be misread in a most unfortunate way) is just impossible for me, at least until some words have been exchanged!


Actually, I could have gone two ways with this. The fact is, I am still friends with my exes, and they like to stay friends with me, so that's answer 3. But I'm a fucking SADIST, for crying out loud. I don't think anyone's described me as "could still bring home to parents" (even though I probably could be). But knife-wielding bi-ness, if that includes a little evil glint in the eye, yes - I have been described in those sorts of terms before, many times.



What can I say? I'm fucking lazy sometimes, and anyway almost all my clothes are t-shirts and jeans/combats/joggers, cos I'm living on a tight budget and those are the cheapest casual clothes money can buy!


Actually, when put into practice, the last answer came closest - but the "new" partner was someone whom I'd spoken with online for months already so it doesn't really count. If we're assuming that this is a person I've met for the first time at that night's social event, and we've spent hours talking to each other, and I've got the hots for her or him (and I know he's gay!)then I think I would be confident enough to offer a goodnight cuddle and peck on the cheek, and would go for it.


Geez, I didn't realise it was possible for "sexy" to come off as "nasty", except that I'm a sadist and my "sexy" often is a bit scary and dark and "evil" (in a fun way!) But that's not to do with degree of "sexy", it's to do with type of "sexy".

Also - I lack the artifice necessary to do "lure". I don't lure anybody because that would imply that a) I knew what I was doing and b) that I wanted them not to be aware of what I was doing. My deal is much simpler: I let them know I'm interested in them in a sexy/dating sense, but if that's not cool then friends is cool too - so let's see which works out for us both? And sometimes it works out as friends, and sometimes it works out as sexy/dating stuff. "Luring", whether it's the arseholish PUA type, or the various feminine equivalents (I had "walletworking" here first, but realised not all women, and probably not even most women, who do the luring stuff are after money and that stereotype is not worthy to be perpetuated here): not really my deal. Not as recipient, not as performer.

Finally, I don't want a potential partner kept guessing about my "sack skills" - I want people to know I can get to the QB and bring him down! Oh, not what they meant? My bad! Yeah, I don't want a potential submissive partner to be guessing about my skills: trust and safety being hugely important with my kind of sex, I want her to be confident of what I've got.